The Search that Begins Within…
The funny thing about love is that for everyone it’s something different. But it turns out most of us are simply in love with the idea of love, but not as willing to put in the work to make it happen. True love doesn’t come easy. Sure there’s the first initial attraction, and the trial period of bliss, but when reality sets in, you realize love is something you have to work at.
Most of us spend half our lives on a journey looking for something that begins within ourselves. In order to truly enjoy love in the natural it’s something that must first be learned in the spiritual. By this I mean love begins with loving ourselves and loving God.
Loving God will allow you to have a new-found self-confidence in being able to love yourself. God’s love is also unconditional, so even when we drop the ball, he’s still there with an outstretched hand. Love in the natural isn’t always this promising, sometimes it can come with disappointments; which is only natural because we’re humans. Humans can fall short. But if you know the love of God, then you won’t look for love from a person to validate you. That’s what God’s love is for.
God loves us because of who we are. He created us “as is” for a reason; so don’t try to change it. Embrace it and use it for something with a greater purpose. Most of us never learn to love God, so we think “love” from another person is supposed to be the thing in life that helps to “complete” us. When you know God’s love, you are complete. Then the other person is simply there to compliment what God has already given you.
In order to experience love at its fullest, we must know God’s love first. God’s love sets the standard for what real love in the natural should be. If you aren’t careful, or if you haven’t learned true love in the spiritual, you may end up settling for something cheap. Trust me, I’ve been there, done that. It’s no fun to sale yourself short. =(
The thing about love is that it’s not for us to go looking for. But true love is something that finds you. Think about it, none of us went looking for love from God. He found enough favor in himself to care about us, even when we didn’t. So stop looking because most of us don’t even know what to look for. What we consider to be “love” may not always match up with what God knows to be love. Allow his spiritual love to guide you to finding that true love in the natural.
I know from personal experience that for some people this all may be easier said than done. I’m a hopeless romantic at times so I understand the longing for companionship. There’s nothing wrong with that it’s natural. But if you aren’t grounded in God’s love first, then trust me, it’s easy to loose yourself once you do find someone you like. What’s ultimately important to know is that, God’s love has a purpose. When you’re trying to find love in the natural, it’s important that the person you choose be someone in line with God’s purpose. God doesn’t just place two people together without a greater purpose. There is something to be learned from every relationship. But please know, before the relationship there has to be a foundation grounded in loving yourself and knowing God’s love FIRST.