Chapter 5 discussion: Healing is a Choice

I know that I am behind on my discussion posts and I apologize. Even when you plan as hard as you might, life still happens. =(  However, I am posting better late than never. I am still interested in continuing this journey of healing.

Chapter 5

The Choice to Help Your Life

The fifth big lie: “I can figure this out by myself”

General Thoughts:

-The fifth big lie alone is the story of my life! How easy it is to believe that we can heal ourselves if we just figure out the right solution. But without new information and someone to hold you accountable, you can’t fix the problem by yourself.

-Pg. 91 proverbs3:5-7 beware of self-deception. This is what keeps our minds trapped in our own world instead of going outside of ourselves to seek help. God doesn’t want us to lean to our own understanding. There are some things in life not meant for us to understand, but to trust in Him and know He knows the best plan for our lives.

-pg 92 “when we don’t treat the wound, the wound infects other parts of us and spreads out into other relationships.” Yes, more than true. Been there, done that. If we aren’t honest about the healing that we need in our lives it will easily begin to affect other unexpected areas of our lives. The infection starts from the inside out; some infections spread slowly, others don’t. I encourage you to seek healing today for whatever it is you need and not to wait any longer.

– The biggest deception of thinking we can figure it out by ourselves, is that a lot of the times we find that we get comfortable. Even though we know we need help, we find ways to “justify” whatever it is we’re going through. I agree with the author on pg. 97 as he talks about reaching a place where we no longer make excuses, but get to a place where he honestly seek help. He has a point where he ask if you have become accustomed to your brokenness. I’ve been there and I know some others may testify to this as well, that it’s so much easier to give up and be defeated vs. putting in energy and effort to fight; especially if you’ve been in the same slump for a while. But I am here to encourage you to fight, no matter how many times you get knocked down. If you fall down 8 times, you get up 9. Don’t stay down, don’t get comfortable, you can be healed and God does have something greater planned for your life!


1. Why might people be embarrassed to receive help?

2. What are some dangers of relying on our own mind to heal us?

3. What can be the deception with self-help books when it comes to trying to get healing in your life?

Again, I apologize for posting late, if anyone was following along. Please feel free to post and comment; share your thoughts below. I would love to hear feedback. All my Book Club post are open forums to start discussions of whatever may be on your heart.

Please be sure to be on the look out for Chapter 6 and Chapter 7 discussions coming soon!