Chapter 6 Discussion: Healing is a Choice

Moving along with our discussions from Healing is a Choice. I’m determined to get through all my discussions. Life continues to keep me busy however. But I’ll keep posting when I can nevertheless.

Chapter 6 “The Choice to Embrace Your Life”

Big Lie: “If I just act as if there is no problem, it will finally go away.”

I liked the point the author made on page 113, where he talks about embracing all the bad moments in our lives and later God will make it seem like those bad moments were part of his plan for your life all along.

Must embrace the good with the bad. Don’t segment our lives. It’s the same life whether things are going good or bad. Good can’t be good without having the bad to compare it to and vice versa.

Part of embracing life is adjusting our expectations of life. pg.114 when we want things to go one way and they turn out differently; embrace life and make the adjustments.  Ultimately God has something better in store.

“He will make the best come out of the worst if you will trust him to do so.” pg. 114

Embracing the abrasive. pg.115-116 God uses people around you as “grace growers.” They cause you to grow/stretch and help develop your character.

Difficult moments create great testimonies for God to get the honor in our lives.

When we embrace our lives, it can draw others to Christ through us being a living testimony


1. What are some things you’ve experienced in life that have forced you to make an adjustment? How did you handle the adjustment? In the end, how did that adjustment help further the plan God has for your life?

2. Describe a “grace growing” moment in your life. How did you feel going through that moment/experience?

3. Why is it important to embrace the good and bad in our lives?


Chapter 5 discussion: Healing is a Choice

I know that I am behind on my discussion posts and I apologize. Even when you plan as hard as you might, life still happens. =(  However, I am posting better late than never. I am still interested in continuing this journey of healing.

Chapter 5

The Choice to Help Your Life

The fifth big lie: “I can figure this out by myself”

General Thoughts:

-The fifth big lie alone is the story of my life! How easy it is to believe that we can heal ourselves if we just figure out the right solution. But without new information and someone to hold you accountable, you can’t fix the problem by yourself.

-Pg. 91 proverbs3:5-7 beware of self-deception. This is what keeps our minds trapped in our own world instead of going outside of ourselves to seek help. God doesn’t want us to lean to our own understanding. There are some things in life not meant for us to understand, but to trust in Him and know He knows the best plan for our lives.

-pg 92 “when we don’t treat the wound, the wound infects other parts of us and spreads out into other relationships.” Yes, more than true. Been there, done that. If we aren’t honest about the healing that we need in our lives it will easily begin to affect other unexpected areas of our lives. The infection starts from the inside out; some infections spread slowly, others don’t. I encourage you to seek healing today for whatever it is you need and not to wait any longer.

– The biggest deception of thinking we can figure it out by ourselves, is that a lot of the times we find that we get comfortable. Even though we know we need help, we find ways to “justify” whatever it is we’re going through. I agree with the author on pg. 97 as he talks about reaching a place where we no longer make excuses, but get to a place where he honestly seek help. He has a point where he ask if you have become accustomed to your brokenness. I’ve been there and I know some others may testify to this as well, that it’s so much easier to give up and be defeated vs. putting in energy and effort to fight; especially if you’ve been in the same slump for a while. But I am here to encourage you to fight, no matter how many times you get knocked down. If you fall down 8 times, you get up 9. Don’t stay down, don’t get comfortable, you can be healed and God does have something greater planned for your life!


1. Why might people be embarrassed to receive help?

2. What are some dangers of relying on our own mind to heal us?

3. What can be the deception with self-help books when it comes to trying to get healing in your life?

Again, I apologize for posting late, if anyone was following along. Please feel free to post and comment; share your thoughts below. I would love to hear feedback. All my Book Club post are open forums to start discussions of whatever may be on your heart.

Please be sure to be on the look out for Chapter 6 and Chapter 7 discussions coming soon!

Chapter 4 Discussion for Healing is A Choice

I apologize for the late posting, but nevertheless here it is:

Chapter 4 : The Choice to Heal Your Future

The big lie: “Time Heals All Wounds”

Here are my notes and commentary:

-It’s not the time that heals the wound, it’s how that time is spent dealing with the roots of the wound.

-Cleansing ourselves from our past helps heal our future.

– pg 82 “..let go of the concept of God in which he is supposed to protect us from all hurt and pain.” So many Christians fall for this lie. Being a Christian does not mean God will save you from hurt.

-The longer we live with our wounds and accommodate for them; the more damage we do to our lives.

-Heal the future by letting go of the past. No hope for the future if you let the past become part of your present.

-Can’t invest in our future, when our hearts are still invested in our past.

-In Hebrews 12 it talks about casting aside anything that might weight us down as we run the race for Christ. For me, this was my past. I had held onto so much baggage that I couldn’t freely run the race with all the extra weight. It wasn’t until I let it all go and gave it to God that I could run with a new found freedom in Christ.


1. Why might it be hard to let your past go?

2. Why do you think people easily fall for the lie “time heals all wounds?”

3. Share an experience where you had a hard time letting go of something from your past. What did it take for you to let it go, get healing and move on in that area of your life?

Discussion3: Chapters 2 & 3 Healing is a Choice

Welcome back to another discussion for Healing is a Choice. We are now officially on to discussion 3. Today we’ll look at Chapters 2-3.

I hope everyone is enjoying reading the book. There’s so much in this book that could be used during a healing process. There’s always something we need healing from. Even when we think our lives are perfect, God is always healing us to make us even better vessels for him to use.

Chapter 2

The Second Choice: The Choice to Feel Your Life

Second Big Lie: “Real Christians should have a real peace in all circumstances”


Question#1: Why is feeling pain good for a healing process?

In chapter 2, the author talks about the concept of dying to self. Just because we feel something, doesn’t mean we have to bow and worship that emotion. When we choose to do that we give it more power over our lives. We can choose to resolve the emotion and heal or choose to revolve around the emotion because we haven’t gotten proper healing.

Just because you’re a Christian doesn’t mean God is going to stop you from experiencing pain. Sometimes it’s through the pain that we grow. Not all pain is bad. God will use some pain to push us to purpose. There’s so many examples of this in the Bible: Joseph, Samson and David to name a few.

Know that whenever we go through something, God is always going to provide a way out. The victory has been declared, it’s just our responsibility to endure during the journey. God has already given us what we need to get through and fight.


Question# 2: Why do you think so many people fall for the big lie # 2?

Chapter 3

The Third Choice: to Investigate Your Life in Search of Truth

The Third big Lie: It Does no Good to Look Back or Look Inside

Question#3: What’s the value in revisiting your past for the healing process?

Everything that God has taken you through is never in vain. Even the hurt from our past has purpose in our future healing. God knows just what trials to give us so that he may have the glory in our lives.

Question#4: Why don’t people like revisiting their past?

Through my mentor I’ve learned the value in having a person of accountability during your healing process. We all need that one person we can be naked and unashamed with. And by “naked” I mean, we can lay our emotions before this person and they aren’t going to judge us. This is the person we can always trust to have our best interest at heart, through the good, the bad and ugly.

My mentor is that person for me. Because I felt safe with her I can trust that when I come to her, she’s there as a helping hand through my healing process. My suggestion would be to make sure the person is stronger than you in their faith walk with God. That way you have someone stronger to draw from who has enough strength to keep you going and it won’t feel like a loss to them per say.

If we never revisit the past, then we can never confront the root of where the pain really began. Although it can be scary, it’s worth it. I’ve had to dig deep in my own life’s past and there were thing hiding inside that I didn’t even realize until I really thought things through. Sometimes, it takes having moments to yourselves to think it through and allow yourself to go there again. But when revisiting that moment, let the pain go and allow God to enlighten you of the purpose.

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Next week we’ll discuss Chapter 4 of Healing is a Choice. Chapter 4 is the choice to heal your future and the lie: time heals all wounds.

What are you thoughts? Looking forward to feedback and praying that others are being touched while reading through the book. #amen




Book Club ( Healing is A Choice) Discussion 1: Introduction

Thank you to everyone who has tuned in to be a part of this online book club. I’m excited and ready to hear everyone’s thoughts and feed back. WELCOME TO OUR FIRST SESSION!

Again the book we’re reading is “Healing is a Choice” by Stephen Arterburn (Click here to read previous blog post about the online book club and a synopsis of the book)

Just to get us started here are my general thoughts on the introduction:

-The introduction really helps set the tone for the rest of the healing journey. If you want to be healed, you really do have to start with a made up mind to do so. I’ve found in my own spiritual walk this has been easier said than done. But once your mind is made up, there’s no turning back. But it takes God really helping you to see the full picture of where he’s trying to take you.

-I found it interesting on page xvi where the author mentions how often we ask God to heal us, but a lot  of the times we put in a request and don’t take action afterwards. Faith without works is dead.  I enjoyed when he touched base on how many people just want God to make things easy and take their pain and troubles away; and although God can, he chooses to do otherwise because our healing goes beyond the simple removal of the pain.

This hit home with me, because for so long in my own situation I have wished for God to take away my desires to do wrong, or remove a person from my life so it can be easier to let them go. But recently God has been showing me that the healing process is meant to work some other things out of us, so that God can have room to impart greater things into us. If he just took our pain away, we’d never get to the root of our bad behaviors, or we’d never get to the  root of why we have certain desires. God wants more than a simple surface healing for our lives. He wants us to heal and be made whole.

-I connected when the author mentioned how some people choose not to get healed because it has become comfortable. I can relate because I recently started feeling comfortable in a soul-tie I had been fighting for years. And I understand how someone might feel when you think you’re fighting and you’re giving it all you got, yet you never see real results. I felt defeated for years. But I’ve learned that to choose to stay comfortable with our pain is the same as choosing death. We will eventually kill ourselves from the inside out by staying “comfortable”. So instead, God has been working on helping me to choose life by choosing not to stay stuck in my pain.


Here are a few questions for anyone to feel free to comment on and join in:


1.  What are some areas you need healing in? What do you think is keeping you from getting completely healed in these areas?

2.  What are some things you have overcome that you never thought you would? How did God see you through that challenge? If God has brought you through that, know that he can also bring you through your current trials.

3. Why do you think some people might refuse healing?

4. Why do you think God chooses us to experience our trials and troubles even though he could simply remove the pain or take us out of a situation?

5.  Share your general thoughts. Questions you want to ask to the group ( leave in comment box below)




The first choice: The Choice to Connect Your Life

The first big lie: “All I need to heal is just God and Me.”

I look forward to hearing everyone’s feedback throughout the next week and looking forward to continuing our discussion on next Friday! Hopefully we’re on our way to an interesting journey of healing with one another! #Happyhealing #Movingforward

Book Club Reminder!

For those interested in being a part of my online book club, don’t forget that it starts this Friday. The book we’ll be reading is called “Change is a Choice” by Stephen Aterburn. The discussion on Friday will begin with the introduction.  I will be posting  my thoughts along with general discussion questions for others to join in on. I can’t wait to hear the feedback!


Click the link below to find out more information about how you can join in on the Healing is a Choice book club THIS FRIDAY!

Book Club: Healing is a Choice

Book Club: Healing is a Choice

Lately I’ve discovered that I have come across some really great Christian books and I’ve been wanting to find a way to share them with others. What better way to share them that to start an online book club through my blog! I’m really excited about this project and I hope that I can get others ( like yourself on board with me.)

So for the first book club session, the book that we’ll be reading is:

Healing is a Choice by Stephen Arterburn


Synopsis ( From Amazon)

The power to heal—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually—is in God’s hands. But the choice to be healed is yours. Everyone, at some level, needs healing. You may have prayed for healing many times, for many years. Perhaps you have lived with your brokenness so long that you have become accustomed to it. Maybe you wonder just when God is going to take all the hurt away.

He can. But you also must choose to let the hurt go and let the healing begin.

In Healing Is a Choice, author Stephen Arterburn offers  ten choices crucial to receiving healing. Embracing these choices means rejecting the lies we often tell ourselves. These are not hoops God requires you to jump through to earn your miracle; they form, instead, the journey He desires for you. He can—and will—walk with you. But you must put one foot in front of the other and choose to let the hurt go and let the healing begin.

“His Word affirms that God wants us to experience His healing, but many times we make choices that stand in the way. Healing Is a Choice is a helpful resource that lays out the path of healing God’s way.”

Here’s a helpful list of where you can find the book to join in on the discussion of healing:

I’m sure there are other sites to find good deals on books, but the ones I’ve listed are more popular. Also these websites offer e-books for Kindle and iPad users. If anyone else has suggestions of where else to find the book and get a good deal, feel free to comment and share with others.

Also don’t forget you can always check the book out at your local public library and used books are always an option.

The official discussion will start next Friday, July 25th. Each week we’ll go through the book chapter by chapter.

Every Friday, I will post a few of my thoughts and then a few questions to get feedback from other readers.During this time feel free to share your own thoughts on the book, or even revelations God has given you while reading etc. I really want this to be an open forum, where we’re able to be open with one another and really venture into the journey of true healing.

 On July 25th our discussion will begin with The Introduction

I know most people skip over the introduction, but this introduction is what really drew me to the book. I hope after you read it for yourself, you’ll understand why I don’t want to simply skip over it.

Also I wanted to note, it’s okay to read through the book at your own pace and chime in whenever you wish to share. I understand that people have their own schedules of life. But I also know some people like going through it chapter by chapter and sharing that way. Either option is available, whatever works best for you.

Please join me in this journey of reading Healing is a Choice. I would really enjoy hearing feedback from others. Because I read a little bit ahead in the book, I know good things will come from sharing with others.

If you have any questions before the 25th, leave a comment below or email me: